Autopilot – How’s that working for you??

We grow accustomed to ignoring the warning signs that say “Hazard Ahead” or “Slow Down.”  We do our best to “get through” life’s circumstances, but don’t put energy into making things better.  We numb ourselves to the world around us and to our internal world of thoughts, feelings and sensations until the discomfort becomes so extreme that we can’t ignore it any longer.

Unconscious competence (AutoPilot) serves an important purpose that we may have grown accustomed  to using far too often.  It would be exhausting and stressful if we had to pay attention to every detail, stimulus, or input that we encountered every moment of the day.  That’s why our brains and bodies are capable of processing information at an unconscious level – thankfully.  Unconscious competence allows us to put our attention selectively on matters that require greater focus.  This has many benefits, but the ability to rely on unconscious competence can negatively impact how we live our lives.

Over reliance on unconscious competence teaches us to not pay attention to the warning signs that change is needed.  This is one of the reasons that it is difficult for most people to find life balance.  We get in the habit of being out of balance, of enduring the discomfort that we’ve created in our lives, and not being motivated enough to make necessary changes until we cannot ignore the warning signs any longer – physical pain, obesity, divorce, financial problems, over-working, substance abuse, and so on.

Finding fulfillment and satisfaction in how we spend our time and making conscious choices that create a happier life is what finding balance is all about.  This is when we no longer rely on unconscious competence, but instead live a life of complete awareness, intention and fulfillment.

If you are interested in a deeper look into this phenomenon, I am hosting a 4 hour workshop on this topic soon.  If you would like to be placed on the priority notification list for open enrollment or have any questions click here: http://eepurl.com/iP4Cn, fill out the form and I will be in touch with you to answer any questions or to send you the workshop information.

Till next time.

Happiness & Joy,

Dyrene

Time Tip Tuesday – Timing your Tasks

Last week, I had you take inventory of how you spent your days.  Today we’re going to look at some of the “USELESS” time we find ourselves with.

You know, sitting in the waiting room of a Dr office, waiting for a prescription, sitting in the car waiting on your child(ren) to come out of their activity, on hold with the insurance company etc…

These moments are times when we can accomplish some of the little things in our “to-do” piles.  For example, I use waiting in the car to catch up on reading magazine articles or writing emails (from my smart phone).  I use the “on-hold” time to clean out a random drawer near the phone.  (I’m often amazed by the “stuff” under the silverware in the drawer dividers, EWWW)

Today’s challenge, is to make yourself a list of things that you can accomplish in less than 5 minutes.  Just write them all down.  After you’ve dumped your mind of all these little chores, make a category list of where you can accomplish them.  (IE… Car, Home, Dr Office)

Keep these lists in their appropriate area, so you have them available to work from when you find yourself with this extra time.

Till next time.

Happiness & Joy,

Dyrene

Are you asleep at the wheel??

Have you ever been driving your car and suddenly realized you’ve been driving for miles, maybe even reached your destination, but didn’t remember doing the driving?  This is the common phenomenon of unconscious driving.  Some people call it automatic pilot.  It may also be called unconscious competence – engaging in an activity without realizing how you are doing it or even that you are doing it.

The ability to drive a car without realizing you’re actually driving it can be used as a metaphor for life.  Many of us go about our lives half-awake, half-conscious, or with our eyes half open not even realizing we’re doing it.  We pay attention to the bare minimum, and ignore the things that create discomfort, conflict, pain, or boredom.  We rely on our automatic pilot to get us through our day-to-day activities, falling further asleep at the wheel of life.

We sit in front of the television in a daze for hours at a time.  We don’t really listen to our friends and family when they are sharing stories about their day.  We read the words in a book, but don’t fully pay attention to what the author is saying.  We fill our lives with activities that create stress and anxiety, and we ignore the pain in our backs that indicate that our well being is at risk.

If you are interested in a deeper look into this phenomenon, I am hosting a 4 hour workshop on this topic soon.  If you would like to be placed on the priority notification list for open enrollment or have any questions click here: http://eepurl.com/iP4Cn, fill out the form and I will be in touch with you to answer any questions or to send you the workshop information.

Till next time.

Happiness & Joy,

Dyrene