Mindset Monday – Facing Fear

Hello all,

I have been thinking a lot lately about how fear plays a role in our lives.  It can have different effects on each person and in different ways.  A situation might be “fear staring someone down” while another person feels no fear in it at all.  I believe that it depends on your point of reference and backstory.

Regardless of what the fear is, it typically only lives in our minds.  We have a story in our heads about the thing we fear and it plays in our heads over and over like a skip in a vinyl album (Yes I know, I am aging myself here LOL).  What if the story isn’t true and the fear is unfounded?  How does that change the way we move forward?  There are situations and circumstances that truly do elicit a physical reaction of fear.  (For me it is driving through and intersection where I was hit “head-on” by another driver who made a bad decision)  My body completely tenses and I have to force myself to relax and know that it is a memory reflex, and not reflective of the current environment.

I am afraid of heights.  WHY??  Good question, I have never fallen from any height above 2 feet.  SO, what is this fear based on??  We hear stories of people who have fallen and the devastating consequences they had to suffer/endure.  We imaging ourselves enduring those same things and something in our head says “NO WAY, do I ever want to suffer like that” so now we are afraid of that situation.  I am working on reminding myself that everything in life is happening for a reason.  I may not know or understand the reason, but fear can not keep me from doing the things I want to do in my life.  If I allow it to control my actions, then I am giving up the ability to be open for new experiences.

How about you?  Are you closed off to something?  It could be the very thing you need to face to move forward.  Take a moment to think about your fears and how they effect you.  May you find peace and happiness on the other side of this journey.

If you find it difficult to feel the joy on the other side of your fears, then stay tuned, as I have an announcement coming soon on a way for you to do just that.

Till next time.

Happiness & Joy,

Dyrene

What Planning Style works for you??

Hello Folks,

I am on a focused trail this week.  A lot is going on in my life, both personal and professional, that needs some very specific attention.  That fact got me thinking about how we plan our days, or not as the case may be.

There are many approaches to planning out your days.  Some people take the “do it as it shows up” approach, others take the “plan every minute out, including breaks” approach, and then there is something somewhere in the middle.

I tend to be a “right down the middle of the road” kinda girl.  I block out specific time for things like meetings, phone calls, classes and housework, but a lot of the time, I am doing whatever comes up that needs to be done.  For example, today I have 1 hour carved out for personal/house stuff, 4 hours carved out for making phone calls, I have 1 hour carved out for a meeting, I have 1/2 hour carved out for (dare I say it??) chauffeuring my daughters (to work and home from school)  and tonight 3 1/2 hours carved out for Chorus Practice (my daughter and I sing in a community chorus.  www.smfconline.org if anyone wants to check them out. )  As you can see, this comes no where close to an 8 hr work day.  Now this is a typical day for me, I participate in many types of activities each day and some days are more crowded than others.

I like the freedom and flexibility it gives me in being able to do the important stuff when necessary, and the “fire-extinguishing” when needed.

What type of planner are you?  I would love to hear from you and how your style works for you.

Till next time.

Happiness & Joy,

Dyrene

What you think about grows.

This is one of the most basic concepts from the Law of Attraction, yet for some it is the hardest to comprehend and put to work in their own lives.

I find that when I try to focus on the things I want in my life (happiness, abundance, love, peace etc…) I get sucked into wasting time dreaming of what I want, and I miss some of the things that are happening in the current moment.

Is it because I don’t have the strength to control my thoughts and be present in the moment, all at the same time?  Or, is it that my current situation is so bleak that my dreams are more inviting? It could be a combination of both, and if I had to guess, that’s what I would say.

Now, don’t get me wrong, I LOVE my life, family, friends and even my work.  But I have an inward feeling that there is so much more out there for me to do and become.  I strive to grow daily and am being exposed to so many different methods that it makes my head spin.  A mentor of mine calls this “Shiny Object Syndrome”.  Getting sucked into any new thing that catches my eye.

I have decided to sit down and decide the one thing that I need to focus on, and then only read things, listen to seminars and do work associated with that one thing.  With the hope and desire that reigning in my focus to one subject matter will allow that area to grow.  THEN and only then, will I move onto the next thing on the list.  Kinda like being back in school, you can’t learn calculus until you’ve mastered all the other math below that level.

SO, what has your attention and is growing in your life?  Let us know by leaving a comment or question.  I’d love to hear how others are handling this in their lives.

Till next time.

Happiness & Joy,

Dyrene